Tips on How to Avoid Social Awkwardness

          For quite some time, over five years, I have been socially awkward. I have been that person who would not show much interest or care in conversations. If someone gave me a hug, I would pretend to hug back, offending the other person. This year, my awkwardness was magnified in a party where I did not talk to hardly anyone. I was almost at the point of tears when I left, and I do not cry easily. Many people have commented about my awkwardness, and I would shrug it off like it was nothing. I got to a point where I didn't want to have out with people outside of school. My friend, whom I met in my freshman year, decided to write up some tips to avoid awkwardness. So, without her permission, I copy her tips. Some are painstakingly obvious, and others are questionable, but I hope the guide helps.

1) When someone greets you, look at them, smile, and greet them back.
This one is pretty straightforward, just use manners our moms taught us.

2) When someone gives you a hug, give one back.
I know I used to have a problem with this, but I tried to get over it, and know I have gotten better.

3) Do not show your awkwardness, ever.
Doing this will result in an awkward conversation, which you initiated, making you awkward.

4) Do not use too extreme academic vocabulary when having a casual conversation.
I did not realize I was doing this until it was pointed out. I used too big of words, words the average Joe would not understand. I realize now that contributed to my awkwardness.

5) Never admit to anything too personal that it can result in people thinking you are awkward and strange.
This basically says not to admit anything that people would find shocking or could gossip about.

6) Make guests at your house as comfortable as possible.
Without following this simple rule, a person could lose some friendships and become more awkward.

7) Keep a nice posture. Do not be ungraceful.
Try not to be clumsy and do not stumble around.

8) Participate in sports.
Straightforward, unless you have a valid excuse.

9) Do not randomly pause in a conversation.
Doing this will make the other person uncomfortable, making you awkward.

10) Be comfortable while in a group.
Do not look nervous or shy. A relaxed laugh shows you are not awkward.


         These are the tips she wrote up for me. I hope some of you will be able to use some of these tips to avoid awkwardness while hanging out with friends.